A Letter to the “Man” Who Sexually Assaulted Me

A little over few months ago, I was sitting in a movie theater with a friend. Whilst cracking jokes and having a jolly good time, he decided that due to the fact that I was tipsy, it would be a good idea to sexually assault me.

For the umpteenth time in my 25 years, I was forced to go through the ordeal of sexual assault and violation.

I am writing this for every woman, man or child that ever had to go through this ordeal. I am writing this for every living person on this earth because this does not only affect the victims, it affects society and modern civilization. I am writing this because I refused to be shamed or blamed into staying quiet.

How is it possible that in this day and age, people think it’s OK to violate someone sexually because they’re intoxicated? How is it possible that in this day and age, people like myself, the victims of a crime, feel guilty and ashamed? How the fuck is it possible that people like him, predators, get off the hook so easily? Like they did nothing wrong? Like it was their god given right to take advantage of someone who is obviously not in the position to consent to sexual advances?

To this man I say, it is because of people like you that others find it so hard to trust. It is because people like you that humanity is facing a major downfall. It is because of people like you, society is utterly and truly fucked.

Thank you for giving me the reminder that the uphill battle against sexual assault is nowhere near ending. Thank you for giving me the reminder to speak up and fight against people like you. Thank you for giving me the reminder that as long people like you exist, people like me will only be that much stronger and more determined to stand against predators like you.

You have given me a much needed reminder to rise up.

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Why Rape Jokes Aren’t Funny

People who suffer from any sort of violation, especially rape, lose their innocence. There are millions of people out there who are victimized by rape and sexual assault. Even though they have physically survived the act of being sexually violated, it is a long and hard road process to recover, both psychologically and emotionally.

There are a few reasons why rape jokes aren’t funny. For starters, making light of a horrible situation only adds insult to injury. You don’t know what it’s like to be pinned down and have things shoved up inside you. You don’t know what it’s like to be scared of sleeping because of the goddamn night terrors and nightmares. You don’t know what it’s like to not want to get out of your house because you’re too damn scared to be violated again. You simply don’t know what it’s like to be a victim of rape.

Rape victims might survive the act itself. Their physical wounds will eventually heal and with much-needed therapy and support, might actually be able to put the past behind them. One thing they don’t leave behind is the psychological pain that sneaks up on them every once in a while. Every rape victim will remember details of their attack and can tell you exactly how they felt during every second it lasted.

The Egyptian Center for Women Rights stated that only 200,000 rape cases are reported annually in Egypt. The exact number or a close estimate to the actual number of rape and/or sexual assault against women is unknown due to the fact that most rape cases go unreported because of the ”shame” that comes with it – a social stigma that almost all societies in the world created.

Another reason why rape jokes aren’t funny is because while you’re acting like a class clown and cracking a wise joke about rape, there’s a high chance an individual who was raped before is sitting right next to you. While you’re laughing, a person next to you is getting flashbacks and is going through the whole ordeal in their heads again while pretending that there is nothing wrong. While you’re sitting there being a complete insensitive little bitch, the person next to you is living their worst nightmare over and over again.

Additionally, when you laugh about rape and/or joke about rape, not only are you’re giving a rapist an excuse to be proud of what they’ve done but you’re actually encouraging the act itself. If we, as a progressive society (supposedly), do not stand against rape but in fact, make light of the situation every chance we get, how the hell would it ever stop?

Next time you decide to crack a dumb joke that is useful to no one, think about the people that are around you because you might be doing more harm than good.